Kids And Table Manners
It is true that over time society does change, even generation to generation. One of these changes is in the form of manners. It seems that in today's society there is not only a general lack of personal manners, but even the lack of the importance or need for good manners. Within the last two generations, children have gone from "being seen and not heard" to not only voicing their opinion, but to outright back-talking and being openly cynical in front of others. This open disrespect is just another witness of the fact that manners aren't as important to this current generation as they were in previous generations.
There are many areas where focus may be placed. One area in particular is a lost art. That area is in table manners. Teaching kids good table manners can truly be a difficult task. It sometimes takes the patience of Job. To begin, there are differences in instructing depending on the age of the child. Young children should not be expected to master all of the skill and proper etiquette before the age of three. Be realistic.
Be An Example
The first rule when instructing children on anything, not just good table manners, is to lead by example. One can't expect their seven year old to have good manners if they are watching their parent eat like a cave man, or cave woman for that matter. Also, children are, many times, visual learners as well as great imitators. It is important that they are imitating good manners as opposed to bad manners.
Proper Hand Washing
Proper table manners should begin even before sitting at the table. Children should be taught that even before they take their place at the table that they are to properly wash their hands with warm water and soap. Again, depending on the age of the child will make a difference as to what you will each and what children are expected to learn and practice. Young children (toddler aged, for example) should be taught to use utensils and to not throw food. Beyond that, everything else is just a bonus.
Table Etiquette
For older children and teens having a knowledge of how to properly set the table will be very important along with knowing which utensils are used for specifically which type of food. Also, the general good manners of saying "please" when asking someone to pass an item at the table. In addition it is also important to teach children that when an individual needs to leave the table they should ask to be excused. Another rule that is important is that no individual should begin to eat their food until everyone has been served or has had a chance to serve themselves.
Professional Instruction
For parents that feel that it would be better for their children to receive professional instruction there are many etiquette classes taught as well as "finishing schools" which usually encompass much more than just table manners. However parents choose to educate their children of the proper use of manners it is important that children understand the value of having good manners.
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